St. Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians places charity, that is, love, above all else:
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal…
The Supreme Court of the United States recently cleared the way for same-sex marriage to be granted equal recognition in the 50 states of the United States. As with many things American, many in the Philippines’ gay copycat culture are celebrating this decision by making their social network profile pictures look like a Skittles package. Those who are opposed however, have put forth many reasonable and sound arguments as to why the decision was more of an ideological push than true legal doctrine.
I Smell Something Wrong
What has struck me among the many reactions, comes from those who identify themselves as Catholics or Christian. Fr. James Martin, a Jesuit known for his very liberal views on church teaching says this, “No issue brings out so much hatred from so many Catholics as homosexuality. Even after over 25 years as a Jesuit, the level of hatred around homosexuality is nearly unbelievable to me, especially when I think of all of the wonderful LGBT friends I have. The Catholic church must do a much better job of teaching what the Catechism says: that we should treat our LGBT brothers and sisters with “respect, sensitivity and compassion.” But God wants more. God wants us to love. And not a twisted, crabbed, narrow tolerance, which often comes in the guise of condemnations, instructions and admonitions that try to masquerade as love, but actual love. Love means: getting to know LGBT men and women, spending time with them, listening to them, being challenged by them, hoping the best for them, and wanting them to be a part of your lives, every bit as much as straight friends are part of your lives. Love first. Everything else later. In fact, everything else is meaningless without love.”
I would have liked to ask Fr. Martin where these people are, who have a “narrow tolerance, which often comes in the guise of condemnations, instructions and admonitions that try to masquerade as love…” where are they Father Martin? Are we to think that these “instructions”, the Catechism for example, is hateful? Granted there are groups that have been less than charitable, do you also admonish those in the LGBT movement who also use hateful language to Christians? In fact, what does it mean to “love” someone, because while this FB piece sounds similar to the Pauline quote I gave above, it really isn’t in its substance. St. Paul never compromised truth and apostolic teaching for the sake of the kind of “love” you mention because TRUE LOVE does not masquerade the truth in order to be liked and accepted. Christ himself was clear on Judas’ fate as well as the “pit of vipers” who were the religious elite of the Jewish community (which got Him crucified), he also condemned those would be corruptors of innocents into the sea. It seems what Fr. Martin suggests is that to tell the truth about homosexual acts being intrinsically evil, i.e., Church teaching, is to be hateful and hurtful.
Is it love or is it just wanting to be liked
Exploring this opinion more closely makes me realize the dilemma that the Church and faithful Christians face when confronted by those purveying the gay agenda and it is, that we are looking at mercy, compassion and love at different planes. One plane understands love, mercy and compassion to mean full acceptance or unconditional acceptance of what a homosexual person is and does, period. The other plane understands it as accepting a homosexual person with the dignity of a person but rejecting the sinful acts he does. Only one of these is true. The first is what homosexual activists and those who support them (including some clergy and lay) would like the Church to concede to. They argue that unless we accept everything that they are including what they do, then it isn’t love and anything less is hatred and bigotry. The dichotomy between what the person is ontologically (his being and nature) and what he does (his activities), is lost. Dr. Peter Kreeft was once giving a lecture on moral theology wherein he was trying to make the distinction between a sinner and the sin, between the doer and the deed and was referring to homosexuals and homosexual acts in particular, when a homosexual from the audience stood up and said, “we don’t accept that distinction”, “we are what we do”.
This, I think, sums up where two sides of the “love, mercy and compassion” comes from. We say, “love the sinner and hate the sin” and they say, “love the sinner, period.” The question for which I have also been called a bigot is, is it real love to accept a person’s sinful behavior, that which compromises his eternal soul? Is that love? If it isn’t, then those in the Church who support the homosexual agenda are engaged in a false kind of love, compassion and mercy. However, if that is true love, then we who make the distinction are wrong, which means homosexual acts are not sinful and not an abomination to God (His words, not mine). Only one can be true therefor correct. However, this is also not to say that those who make the distinction between the person and his acts, cannot do so respectfully and charitably.
Who am I to Judge, I’m a dad, that’s who!
I have been told many times not to judge or be judgmental and yet those same people are the ones who have called me bigot or hater.When I see the “Pride” marches like this, that are done in other parts of the world wherein children and the public are exposed to phallic-wielding or scantily-clad homosexuals, I find it difficult not to judge or maybe it is just me. We must not and cannot judge a person’s internal disposition or intentions, his or her struggles. However, being endowed with a rational mind and sensory perception, we do and always judge certain actions as right or wrong. As a parent I do that all the time but I do this with charity and mercy, with understanding and encouragement. We must love a person for who he or she is, a child of God, while at the same time we must not feel guilty to call an act a sin because intimately tied up with that person is an immortal soul and sin is cancer to the soul.
Quoting from Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, the brave Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone on the SCOTUS decision:
Let the lie come into the world, let it even triumph. But not through me. The simple step of a courageous individual is not to take part in the lie
Post script: I am writing this in WordPress which saw it fit to take political sides by placing a rainbow streamer on the admin editor page. I wish they didn’t impose their beliefs on me, just saying.